Your Child is Your Mirror

All parents wish their children grow into independent and confident adults,capable of handling their own life.But very few of them have become successful. Raising a child is the hardest, most responsible thing a person can do. It's also the job for which people receive the formal training.

Each person's knowledge of how to bring up a child usually comes from their surroundings and their own upbringing.Parents are the most influential role models for their children . Parents who pay compliments and show respect, kindness, honesty and generosity to their children will encourage them to behave in the same way.

In fact your child is your mirror.What  you give him,it will be looked in his self and you could be able to see it easily in his personality.

Those Parents who  express their unconditional love for their children and provide them  the continued support they make them strong and be able to face anything rather than make them weak and low self-esteem.

                                                                                                                                                   Most of time it happens that  parents set many expectations from their children and tell them in  words what they expect from them.They want them to get good grades always and if they unable to get they start criticizing a lot.Most parents don't try to know their children's feelings,fears and insecurities if they have any.

The most important thing  is they don't listen them and keep busy in life.Reject the ideas and suggestions without hearing them so its make them hurt.

 Children often want to share the story of the entire day that what happened in school and how nice were their friends with them but their parents don't take any interest in it.

The most important thing  is they don't listen them and keep busy in life.Reject the ideas and suggestions without hearing them so its make them hurt. Children often want to share the story of the entire day that what happened in school and how nice were their friends with them but their parents don't take any interest in it.

Take the risk of looking at your child as if you are looking in the mirror. Then take responsibility for what you see. If it's hard to accept, get some help. It will be the best gift you ever give your child. We blame our children when they "misbehave" because we don't want to look at our own part. Its easy to say that we want to change our children towards the betterment so we try to control them. We punish, threaten, shout, and criticize but don't want to improve ourselves in front of them so that they can take us as a role model and follow our footsteps.    

                                                     
There are lots and lots of things that you can do to help them improving their personality and raising confidence such as believe in your children and show it by telling them that they can do each and everything of this world.When your children do something good don't forget to praise them and always give positive feedback.Listen carefully when your child want to share anything with you.Try to understand your children feelings and emotions.Criticise behaviour, not your child,like if he is not cleaning his room avoid such types of sentences"you are such a lazy kid never clean your room"Make it clear that its an action you are angry about not your child.Acknowledge  your children's success cricket,arts and crafts or it could be anything that your child good at.Encourage them to take chances and try new things.Even if they make mistakes it will be a great opportunity for  them to learn.respect your children interests even if it is boring,take  a genuine interest in your children's friends and what's happening at school.This will not only strengthen your communication but also give your children a message that you care about their life and interests.

In last,we all know that there are times when words can hurt more than actions so it is important  to keep a sense of humor when difficulties come in life so that they can learn from you how to handle a difficult situation in a lighter way in life.Now I am going to end on this note that parents should be facilitators who teach their children to use the inner strength with confidence.Treat your kid the way you wanna be treated.