Sunscreen Could Be Giving You Skin Cancer

The research, carried out at Missouri University of Science and Technology, looked into what happens to the compounds in sunscreen when they're exposed to light. In particular, they found that zinc oxide—a staple ingredient in sunscreen—undergoes a chemical reaction when it's illuminated by bright light that may release unstable molecules known as free radicals.

Those free radicals readily bond with other molecules, but in the process they can damage cells or the DNA contained within those cells, in turn increasing the risk of skin cancer. The tests, which were carried out in the lab using lung cells covered in zinc oxide solution, suggest that it is UV light which causes the reaction to take place most strongly. Which is, you know, precisely the kind you use sunscreen to protect yourself from.
The research, which is to be published in the Journal of Toxicology and Applied Pharmacology, suggests that the harmful effects of the free radicals increases the longer zinc oxide is exposed to sunlight. After 3 hours of UV exposure, half of the lung cells covered in zinc oxide solution died. After 12 hours, that increased to 90 percent.

Rainbow clouds over mount Everest.                          

 unbelievable but true and amazing rainbow clouds are such a phenomenon that is caused when sun light passes through the ice crystals of the clouds,the crystals work like prism,dividing light into seven colors beautiful,and gorgeous...

Can Drinking Water Really Help Lose Weight?

There are so many ways to lose weight that one can write an encyclopedia on it. One way is to drink sufficient water. Be aware that too much water could lead to electrolyte problems in the body. The Institute of Medicine advises that healthy men consume roughly 3.7 liters of total water (from all beverages and food) a day and healthy women consume 2.7 liters of total water a day.

How Drinking Water Helps Lose Weight?

1.      Drinking plain water increases energy expenditure and rate of fat breakdown

2.      Replacing caloric beverages with drinking water lowers total energy intake by eliminating beverage calories.

Weight Loss Study

In a study, drinking approx 1 liter of plain water over 12 months caused 5 lb weight loss. Experiment has shown that 500 ml of drinking water leads to 100 kJ of energy loss. So 1 liter/day for 365 days would lead to 73000 kJ (2 x 100 x 365) of energy loss. 1 dietary calorie is equal to 4.2 kJ. Therefore, 73000 kJ would be equal to 17380.95 Calorie (73000/4.2). 1 gm of fat is equal to 9 dietary calories. So, 17380.95 dietary calories translates to 1931.21 gm (17380.95/9) of fat. This is approx 2kg or 5 lb of fat. In this study, weight loss effect of diet, and changes in other beverage intake, the amount and composition of foods consumed and physical activity was controlled. Thus, plain drinking water helps lose weight independent of all other ways of weight loss.

SO NOW PEOPLE, 

drink more water

your skin,

your hair,

your mind,

and your body

will thank you...

Eid in Pardes

Eid-ul-Adha ('festival of Sacrifice'), also known as the Greater Eid or Eid-e-qurba, is the second most important festival in the Muslim calendar.

The festival remembers the prophet Ibrahim's willingness to sacrifice his son when Allah(swt)ordered him to.

Much has been said and writtern on it.Not so far just six days ago  Muslims celebrated it all over the world as in Pakistan.But the main thing what i wanna share now is that some of our loved ones who live in abroad they really became sad on those occasions,specially the ones who live without thier families of paternal and maternal sides or mostly the ones who live without  their parents.Settled down in different countries after getting married or stying there for study purpose.What ever the reason,they have to stay away from thier families which they dont want to.

MY elder brother lives in London, doing his MBA so he has to celebrate Eid alone for some years and when he calls us on Eid day he  usually keep recalling his memories that how he use to celebrate his eid with us.He observed and prepared for Eid al-Adha in a number of ways,by starting  the festival with Namaz-e-Eid, helping the butcher to sacrifice a cow or a goat, keeping a portion to feed family and distributing the rest to relatives, friends and the needy.After this, having yummy " Kaleji" and many more dishes based on qurbqni meat.Yes the most important thing is BBQ with his friends.These all thing  make him nostalgic.He told  us that muslims live there Basically,get up in the morning, and everyone including all the women and children go to the mosque for Eid prayers. Then people come back home and get dressed in their Eid wear and go to other people's houses for lunch, where no one really gives anyone eidhi, people just mingle and eat...there is always lots of desserts and then they go home”.

The Asian communities living in West have their own Eid celebrations. In London, the infamous Green Street lights up to give the Asians in London a glance of the Eid in their own countries. Girls are again given a chance to enjoy their chaand raat shopping. Eid gatherings and shows are organised in almost all Asian communities, one of the major and most regular ones being in the heart of London – at the Trafalgar Square. Almost every city in Britain has a mosque for its Muslim community, where even women can gather on Eid, where children go to study the Quran, mosques in the West are more like a community centre, where all Muslims can gather to do their activities. They can distribute food there, talk to eat other about religion, and ofcourse say their prayers. For some people, the mosque is the only place where they actually get to wish Eid Mubarak to someone.
The best thing about celebrating Eid in a city like London,New York is that people from all countries are together there as Muslims. Pakistanis, Indians, Bangladeshis, Arabs, all these people might be separated in the world geographically, but here they gather together to celebrate Eid, a festival that means the same to everyone, because they share the same religion.

 The main ritual of Eid ul Adha is sacrifice but Can we imagine any celebration without sacrificing a cow or a goat on Eid-ul-adha at home?certainly not at all but my brother told me that they are not allowed to slaughter an animal at home.There are slaughter houses for this purpose.Similarly one of my cousin lives in USA.She told the same thing.They only can hear about this but unable to participate in

all like we do in Pakistan.Even many Islamic countries including Saudia Arabia, animal's slaughtering at home is prohibited infact  they have strict laws and regulations regarding it. 

Besides this many other interesting things regarding Eid they miss alot.One of this is eastern girls favourite" applying mehndi".My cousin also told me that many girls of pakistani origin in USA know how to  apply hina with beautiful designs on hands and they would love to apply to it on Eid when any lady want to be applied.

 . But the life and happening of Eid celebrations like in Pakistan is a unique event not seen in any other part of the world. The lights, stalls, bangles, hinna, sacrificing animals cows and goats.Yummy meat dishes might seem regular stuff to local Pakistanis, but Pakistanis abroad miss these small things dearly, and realise their importance once they cannot enjoy them anymore.
 Eid is a speciality of Pakistan, which must be enjoyed, even in these troubling times, let us hope that the joy of Eid reduce the sadness of our dear country and for those spending their Eids out of Pakistan.I think that even you are with your friends on eid in pardes but if you are happy you can enjoy its festivity because Eid is all about happiness. 

GADHA PHIR JEET GAYA

  

  
  

    AMERICA K SADARTI INTAKHAB MAIN GADHEY OR HATHI KI INTAKHABI RACE MAIN GADHA AIK BAR PHIR JEETNEY MAIN KAMYAAB HOGAYA. WHITE HOUSE TAK POUNCHNE KI DOOR MAIN GADHEY KI NUMAINDIGI BARACK OBAMA JAB K HATHI KI MITT ROMNEY KARAHE THY INTAKHABI RACE K DIN TAK DONO K MABEN INTAHAI SAKHT MUQABLEY KI PESHANGOI KI JARHI THI LEKIN BARACK OBAMA KA GADHA WAZEY SABQAT K SATH YE RACE JETNE MAIN KAMYAB RAHA.MAGRIB KO GADHEY MAIN KOI MAZHAIKA KHEZ BAT NAZAR NHI ATI. ZAMEEN PAR GADHEY SE ZIYADA PURATMAD, MUSTAKIL MIZAJ, GHAMBEER, DUNIA KO HAKARAT SE DEKHNE WALA OR APNI HI DHUN MAIN RAHNE WALA KOI INSAAN NHI MILEGA. HUM ASIAN LOG GADHEY KO SIRF BOJH UTHANE WALA JANWAR SAMAJHTE HAIN JAB K AMERICA MAIN ISEY DANISHWAR SAMJHA JATA HAI. AMERICA KI SIYASAT MAIN GADHEY OR HATHI KA UTNA HI AMAL DAKHAL HAI JITNA HUMARI SIYASAT MAIN "LOTEY" KA HAI.AMERICA KI DONO BARI SIYASI JAMATON KO YE JANWAR ITNE PASAND HAIN K UNHO NE INHE APNA INTAKHABI NISHAN TAK CHUN LIYA HAI. JAB K HUMARI SIYASI JAMATEN "LOTEY" TU WAFIR MIKDAR MAIN JAMA KARLETI HAIN MAGAR LOTEY KA INTAKHABI NISHAN LENA APNI TOHEEN SAMJHTI HIAN. SIYASI LOTEY BHI ZARORAT PARNE PAR" QAUM K WASI TAR MAFAAD MAIN" APNI PARTY KI  PEETH MAIN CHURA GHOB KAR AWAM KI "KHIDMAT" TU KARTE HAIN PAR KHUD LOTA KEH LANA PASAND NHI KARTE.

BILASHUBA GADHA AMERICA KI RIYASAT MAIN HATHI SE PEHLE MUTARIF HOWA MAGAR HATHI KO SABSE ZIYADA BAT INTAKHABI RACE JEETNE KA AYZAZ HASIL HAI.AMERICA KI INTAKHABI RACE SIRF GADHEY OR HATHI TAK HI MEHDOD NHI RHI BALKE IS BAR ELECTION KA JADO FRANCE K AIK RESTAURANT TAK BHI POUNCH GAYA. RESTAURANT MAIN "OBAMA BURGER" OR "ROMNEY OMELETTE" K DARMIYAN SABSE ZIYADA BIKNE KA ZABARDAST MUKABLA DEKHNE MAIN AYA. KHANE PINEY K SHOQEEN AFRAD NE SADARTI INTAKHAB SE PEHLE HI APNA VOTE OBAMA K HAQ MAIN DE KAR YE SABIT KAR DIYA THA K AINDA KA HUKMARAN BURGER HOGA JAB K OMELETTE LOGON KI BHOK KA MADAWA NHI KAR SAKHA. HAR 4 SAAL BAD AMERICA MAIN SADARTI INTAKHABAT HOTE HAIN. AIK SADAR CHAHE KITNA HI MAKBOOL OR KABIL KYUN NA HO DO MARTABA SE ZAID IQTEDAR PAR KABIZ NHI HO SAKHTA. OBAMA SE PHELE RE-PUBLICAN PARTY K GEORGE W BUSH OR DEMOCRATIC PARTY K BILL CLINTON DO DO BAR SADAR MUNTAKHIB HO CHUKE HAIN JAB K RE-PUBLICAN PARTY K RONALD REAGAN KO BHI YE AYZAZ HASIL HO CHUKA HAI.AMERICA MAIN SADARTI INTAKHAB HAMESHA NOVEMBER K PEHLE MANGAL ( TUESDAY) KO HOTA HAI IS RASAM KA AGAZ 1845 MAIN HOWA THA OR TAB SE YE SILSILA JARI HAI JAB K SADARTI INTAKHAB MAIN JO BHI UMEEDWAR 270 ELECTROL  VOTE HASIL KR LETA HAI WO SADAR BAN JATA.

 



                                     
OBAMA JEETEY YA MITT ROMNEY HUMAIN IS SE KOI SAROKAR NHI HONA CHAIYE KYUN K AMERICA KI POLICY SHAKSI NHI K SIRF AIK SHAKS SE WO BADAL JAYE BALKE UNKI WOHI PURANI POLICY BARKARAR REHTI HAI. 

The Wave Arizona

 

 

 THE WAVE IS A SANDSTONE ROCK FORMATION LOCATED IN THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA NEAR THE ARIZONA-UTAH BORDER, ON THE SLOPES OF THE COYOTE BUTTES, IN THE PARIA CANYON-VERMILION CLIFFS WILDERNESS, ON THE COLORADO PLATEAU. IT IS FAMOUS AMONG HIKERS AND PHOTOGRAPHERS FOR ITS COLORFUL, UNDULATING FORMS, THE RUGGED, TRACKLESS HIKE REQUIRED TO REACH IT.

 

 

 

"THE WAVE" CONSIST OF INTERSECTING U-SHAPED TROUGHS THAT HAVE BEEN  ERODED INTO NAVAJO SANDSTONE OF JURASSIC AGE. THE TWO MAJOR TROUGHS, WHICH COMPRISE THIS ROCK OF FORMATION, ARE 62 FEET (19 M) WIDE BY 118 FEET (36 M) LONG AND 7 FEET (2 M) WIDE BY 52 FEET (16 M) LONG.

THE SOFT SANDSTONE OF THE WAVE IS FRAGILE, SO ONE NEEDS WALK CAREFULLY,  NOT BREAK THE SMALL RIDGES. A GOOD TIME FOR PHOTOGRAPHING. THE WAVES IS THE FEW HOURS AROUND MIDDAY WHEN THERE ARE NO SHADOWS IN THE CENTER, ALTHOUGH EARLY MORNING AND LATE AFTERNOON SHADOWS CAN ALSO MAKE FOR DRAMATIC PHOTOS. AFTER A RECENT RAIN STORM, NUMEROUS POOLS FORM WHICH CAN CONTAIN HINDERED OF TADPOLES FAIRY SHRIMP. THESE POLES CAN BE PRESENT FOR SEVERAL DAYS. 

THE WAVE IS NOT EASY TO FIND. IN AN EFFORT TO MAINTAIN THE NATURAL INTEGRITY OF THE REGION. THERE IS NO FORMAL TRAIL TO THE WAVE.

THE WAVE EXPOSES SMALL, EOLIANITE  SETS OF CROSS BEDDED SANDSTONE COMPOSED RHYTHMIC AND CYCLIC ALTERNATING GRAIN FLOW AND WIND RIPPLE LAMINAE. THE RHYTHMIC AND CYCLIC LAMINAE REPRESENT PERIODIC CHANGES IN THE PREVAILING WINDS DURING THE JURASSIC  AS HUGE SAND DUNES MIGRATED ACROSS A SANDY DESERT.

 

OFTEN GUIDES CAN SHARE KNOWLEDGE AND LEAD A GROUP TO MANY OF THE FEATURES PROXIMAL TO THE WAVE THAT ARE MORE HIDDEN SUBTLE. MOST CARRY SATELLITE COMMUNICATIONS IN CASE OF EMERGENCY.     

NAIL ART

khobsurat lagna khawateen ka khuwab hota hai or islye wo apny apko banay sanwarny mai lagi rehti hain.naya zamana apny sath nit naaye andaz lekr ata hai lihaza nails ko rangny ka andaz bhi ab purana hua or is k bajaye inhne nit naye design se arasta kiya jane laga hai.ajkal khawateen mai nail art k zariye khud ko jaziby nazar banay ka rujhan farogh pa rha hai.pehly khawateen apny kapron k lihaz se shoes, bags or jewelry pasnd krti ti ab is mai nail polish ka bhi izafa hogeya hai.nail art khawateen mai behad pasand kiya jarha hai..nails ko ajkl fashion k lihaz se mukhtalif pattern se sajaya jata hai.nail art k liye zarori nai k ap kisi shadi ya taqreeb ka intizar kren balky ap isy roz marra b banwa skti han.nail art se na sirf apk hath khubsurat nazar aty hain balky ap ki body language ko bhi tabdeel krdety han,.nail art k liye nails ka lamba hona zarori hai.gliters k sath nail art b kafi maqbool hai.

THE GREAT WALL OF CHINA

THE GREAT WALL OF CHINA BUILT OVER 2,000 YEARS  AGO BY QIN SHI HUANGDI, THE FIRST EMPEROR OF CHINA DURING THE QIN DYNASTY (221 B.C-206 B.C). IN CHINESE THE WALL IS CALLED "WAN-LI QANG-QENG"
THE GREAT WALL IS ONE OF THE LARGEST BUILDING CONSTRUCTION PROJECTS EVER COMPLETED.IT STRETCHES ACROSS THE MOUNTAINS OF NORTHERN CHINA, WINDING NORTH AND NORTHWEST OF BEIJING.IT IS CONSTRUCTED OF MASNORY,ROCKS AND PACKED EARTH.

TOP 5  INTERESTING FACTS OF THE GREAT  WALL OF CHINA:

1)  CONTRARY TO COMMON BRIEF, THE GREAT WALL OF CHINA CANNOT BE SEEN FROM SPACE WITHOUT AID.

2) DURING ITS CONSTRUCTION, THE GREAT WALL WAS CALLED "THE LONGEST CEMETERY ON EARTH" BECAUSE SO MANY PEOPLES DIED BUILDING IT. REPORTEDLY, IT COST OF LIVES OF MORE THAN ONE MILLION PEOPLES.

3) IN 2004, THERE WERE OVER 41.8 MILLION FOREIGN VISITORS TO THE GREAT WALL OF CHINA.

4) IN 1987, THE UNITED NATIONS EDUCATIONAL, SCIENTIFIC AND CULTURAL ORGANIZATION (UNESCO) PLACED THE GREAT WALL ON ITS LIST OF THE WORLD;S GREAT NATIONAL AND HISTORICAL SITES.

5) WHILE THE GREAT WALL IS CURRENTLY A SYMBOL OF NATIONAL PRIDE, CHINA IS STRUGGLE HOW TO MANAGE AND PROTECT THE WALL WHILE CONTROLLING THE MASS-MARKET DEVELOPMENT OF IT. TWO ORGANIZATIONS, THE CHINA GREAT WALL SOCIETY AND THE INTERNATIONAL FRIENDS OF THE GREAT WALL, ARE DEDICATED TO PRESERVING TO.

THE PINK LAKE IN AUSTRALIA

LAKE HILLIER IS A PINK COLORED LAKE ON MIDDLE ISLAND IN WESTERN AUSTRALIA.MIDDLE ISLAND IS THE LARGEST OF THE ISLAND AND ISLETS THAT MAKEUP THE RECHERCHE ARCHIPELAGO, WESTERN AUSTRALIA. THE MOST NOTABLE FEATURE OF THIS LAKE IS ITS ROSE PINK COLOR. IT IS SUCH A SIGNIFICANT DISTINGUISHING FEATURE OF THE ARCHIPELAGO.THE AIR PASSENGERS OFTEN TAKE NOT OF IT.THE COLOR IS PERMANENT AND DOES NOT ALTER WHEN THE WATER TAKEN IN A CONTAINER. THE LENGTH OF THE LAKE IS ABOUT SIX HUNDRED METERS. THE LAKE IS SURROUNDED BY A BORDER OF SAND AND A DENSE WOODLAND OF PAPER BARK AND EUCALYPTUS TRESS WITH A NARROW STRIPES OF SAND DUNES COVERED BY VEGETATION SEPARATING IT TO THE NORTH FROM THE SOUTHERN OCEAN.

THE ISLAND AND LAKE ARE THOUGHT TO HAVE BEEN FIRST CHARTED BY THE FLINDERS  EXPEDITION IN 1802. CAPTAIN FLINDERS IS SAID TO HAVE OBSERVED THE PINK LAKE AFTER ASCENDING THE ISLAND,S PEAK JOHN THISTLE THE SHIP,S MASTER, COLLECTED SOME OF THE LAKE,S WATER, WHICH HE FOUND TO BE SATURATED WITH SALT. ALTHOUGH THE SOURCE OF THE PINK COLOR HAVE NOT BEEN DEFINITIVELY PROVEN IN THE CASE OF LAKE HILLIER. THE PINK COLOR OF OTHER SALT LAKE (E,G PINK LAKE) IN THE REGION ARISES FROM ARE DYE CREATED BY THE ORGANISMS DUNALIELLA SALINA AND   HALOBACTERIA. ANOTHER HYPOTHESIS IS THAT THE PINK COLOR IS DUE TO RED HALOPHILIC BACTERIA IN THE SALT CRUSTS. DESPITE THE UNUSUAL HUE,THE LAKE EXHIBITS NO KNOWN ADVERSE EFFECTS UPON HUMANS.

An Idle Mind Is the Devil's Workshop

Our brain is idle when we do not have anything to think about. And this can lead to dangerous consequences. When you do not think for yourself, you allow others to influence you. Other thoughts occupy your mind and any evil element can easily exploit you for its own purpose.
The devil need not be the devil about whom we have been reading and no body has seen. Any evil deed may be regarded devils and the workshop where it forgets this is the mind of a person who refuses to think for himself. That is exactly the reason why much we need to focus on education.So that we will be able to decide that what is right and what is wrong for us.What is need to do and what is need not to do.

Why all this has come in my mind because few days ago I was watching a morning show when the host started taking live calls, a regular caller came as a first one so the host asked jokingly to that caller" Don't you have any other thing to do?" and I was amazed what the caller replied she said,"I recently got married into a well-off family.We have lots of domestic help around the house.So i don't have anything to do.Therefore i keep watching TV and calling in different programmes. While talking she also told that she has done MSC and she use to be a excellent student, always got good grades throughout her student life but since she got married has nothing constructive to do.

I am just thinking that having got higher education why she doesn't have anything to do.Anything which can give her some knowledge and inner satisfaction.
Like her, people are everywhere around us and i think they should be directed towards some productive work which they can do to utilize their free time.

Because the time they have got right now will never come back so there are many things a person can do this in this regard.For instance,you can join an Islamic course because as a Muslim there are many thing regarding our religion we need to know like ,we recite Quran but unable to understand its meanings.so we could be able to understand by a "Tafseer course".In addition,you could also pursue a hobby and take it up in a more serious manner.

For instance if you enjoy drawing,painting or crafts,you could take an art class.If you enjoy stitching or knitting,you could take proper sewing classes.If you are a reader,join a book club or a library.

Reading good books is always a constructive activity.If you wish to groom your personality more,take up certain topics and study it,read and reread any relevant books and use the online resources for it.Make notes and consider it as self -education.

You could also take something like the history of Pakistan and read up on it.Unlike school days,it would not be boring and you actually enjoy it.

Writing is another productive activity,you can share your thoughts on life,sporting,social issues,historical events,politics,showbiz and it could be any topic what you wanna write on.

If you don't wanna do any job by going away from home in the offices for long periods, think about a part time job according to your degree.You could volunteer yourself for social work and for any NGO which is doing good deeds in our society.The reward and the satisfaction you will get from social work is superb.

All you need to know is what would be the most suitable activity for you and then go after it.Lastly i would like to say it again that try to keep yourself busy with the things your own to do.Don't let your brain empty to be opened the devil's workshop in it.The time you are right now will never come back.Later on you will think and regret on the past time that why you didn't do such and such things.

 Your Child is Your Mirror

All parents wish their children grow into independent and confident adults,capable of handling their own life.But very few of them have become successful. Raising a child is the hardest, most responsible thing a person can do. It's also the job for which people receive the formal training.

Each person's knowledge of how to bring up a child usually comes from their surroundings and their own upbringing.Parents are the most influential role models for their children . Parents who pay compliments and show respect, kindness, honesty and generosity to their children will encourage them to behave in the same way.

In fact your child is your mirror.What  you give him,it will be looked in his self and you could be able to see it easily in his personality.

Those Parents who  express their unconditional love for their children and provide them  the continued support they make them strong and be able to face anything rather than make them weak and low self-esteem.

                                                                                                                                                   Most of time it happens that  parents set many expectations from their children and tell them in  words what they expect from them.They want them to get good grades always and if they unable to get they start criticizing a lot.Most parents don't try to know their children's feelings,fears and insecurities if they have any.

The most important thing  is they don't listen them and keep busy in life.Reject the ideas and suggestions without hearing them so its make them hurt.

 Children often want to share the story of the entire day that what happened in school and how nice were their friends with them but their parents don't take any interest in it.

The most important thing  is they don't listen them and keep busy in life.Reject the ideas and suggestions without hearing them so its make them hurt. Children often want to share the story of the entire day that what happened in school and how nice were their friends with them but their parents don't take any interest in it.

Take the risk of looking at your child as if you are looking in the mirror. Then take responsibility for what you see. If it's hard to accept, get some help. It will be the best gift you ever give your child. We blame our children when they "misbehave" because we don't want to look at our own part. Its easy to say that we want to change our children towards the betterment so we try to control them. We punish, threaten, shout, and criticize but don't want to improve ourselves in front of them so that they can take us as a role model and follow our footsteps.    

                                                     
There are lots and lots of things that you can do to help them improving their personality and raising confidence such as believe in your children and show it by telling them that they can do each and everything of this world.When your children do something good don't forget to praise them and always give positive feedback.Listen carefully when your child want to share anything with you.Try to understand your children feelings and emotions.Criticise behaviour, not your child,like if he is not cleaning his room avoid such types of sentences"you are such a lazy kid never clean your room"Make it clear that its an action you are angry about not your child.Acknowledge  your children's success cricket,arts and crafts or it could be anything that your child good at.Encourage them to take chances and try new things.Even if they make mistakes it will be a great opportunity for  them to learn.respect your children interests even if it is boring,take  a genuine interest in your children's friends and what's happening at school.This will not only strengthen your communication but also give your children a message that you care about their life and interests.

In last,we all know that there are times when words can hurt more than actions so it is important  to keep a sense of humor when difficulties come in life so that they can learn from you how to handle a difficult situation in a lighter way in life.Now I am going to end on this note that parents should be facilitators who teach their children to use the inner strength with confidence.Treat your kid the way you wanna be treated. 

Bitterness In Relations   

There was a time in the past when people use to live together in a joint family,laugh together,cry together,having fun together but now a days people don't wanna do this.They think that staying away from the relatives is the only way to live in peace.They don't allow them to say anything regarding their matters and as a result a kind of bitterness has come in their relation.      

I want to share one of my observation here.Few days ago one of my next door neighbours came to me and said"what my sisters did deserves that i never speak to them again.for many reasons,she has completely boycotted her sisters.such situations are becoming common in every other family these days.

Although Islam gives great importance of maintaining close ties with relatives and warns of severe punishment for those who don't have this.Islamic scholars state that "A Muslim is not allowed to cut off relations even under extreme circumstances,such as when the relatives are disbelievers or sinners".But despite of all this cutting ties with each other has become a common practice in our society.

Why all is this happening,there are lots of reasons of it.

one of the reason is that we take it for granted that our relatives owe us a lot and are more aware of our rights upon them than our responsibility towards them.Perhaps the greatest factor for cutting ties and failing relationships is the failure to forgive and forget.We never  give people the benefits of doubt but give only ourselves.Over the past years,the nuclear family has emerged and joint families are slowly becoming a thing of the past.People would rather spend  weekends with their friends and family commitments have become a burden.The practice of elders resolving family disputes is also becoming extinct.Blame game is also a reason,we fail to realize that each one of us is responsible for our actions and that we always have a choice in a situation to react positively and negatively.                                

 When we act kindly,Our instant mistake is that we start expecting good in return from the same person.Replacing bad treatment with good is what is actually required.But some people think the other way round.they say"I m not a hypocrite.I cant be nice to someone i don't like".There is a difference between hypocrisy and courtesy.when we are meeting someone nicely but with ill intention of causing harm to that person,it is called hypocrisy.But if we are being courteous to someone without having ill intention its called courtesy.we should be courteous with our relatives even then we don't like them in that case either.  

                                                                                                                         
  These are only the problems,now what could be the solution of it?when a problems occurs,the instant reaction is to break off and run.Escaping from uncomfortable relationships is always easier than resolving issues.

First we need to keep in touch with our relatives talking them on phone ,paying them visits,inviting them at your place, sending occasional gifts,should keep maintaining some form of contact on daily basis would be helpful in creating better relations with each other.Need to follow the policy of forget and forgive.If you don't like any thing of any one should inform them.Don't expect too much, if  you are doing good for them should not expect the same from them.The most important thing avoid blame game.Just try to resolve your issues while sitting together.Give space and respect to them.So try to create good relations with them rather than cutting ties,its not that much difficult.By  doing all these efforts you will be able to get them back.